Minneapolis, MN · Issue of September 9, 2026
Dependents covers children and teenagers: school, screens, independence, discipline, and neurodivergence. It is written for the adult doing the raising, assumes that adult is competent and under-resourced, and does not moralise about anybody else's household.
Eight years teaching middle school, then five writing about the kids she taught and the parents she emailed.
A teenager saying nothing is not a teenager with nothing to say. Twenty-two of them told us what the word is doing, when they would actually talk, and the single most common thing adults get wrong about the car.
Priya Raman
Your teenager is using it. So is their teacher. The households that have settled this did not write a ban — they wrote three lines about when it is a calculator and when it is a ghostwriter.
By Priya Raman4 min read
Most family phone agreements are written in the week a phone is bought and abandoned within a term. We asked fourteen households what survived, and one clause showed up in every arrangement still standing after a year.
By Priya Raman2 min read
Bell-to-bell phone bans went from a fringe policy to the default in a few short years. We asked three districts a year in — and, more usefully, asked the parents what changed at home, which is the part nobody measures.
By Priya Raman3 min read
Most families have this conversation in the autumn of senior year, which is the worst possible time: after the list is made, after the visits, after a teenager has attached a future to a place. Here is the version to have three years earlier.
By Priya Raman and Marcus Whitfield3 min read
The classic allowance ran on coins in a jar, and the jar taught a child something a balance on a screen does not. Fourteen households on what they replaced it with, and which replacements a child could actually explain.
By Priya Raman3 min read
The average household in our reader survey holds accounts on six separate school systems, and the information a parent actually needs is reliably in the seventh place: a paper note at the bottom of a bag.
By Priya Raman2 min read
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